Tribute to Aleesha (alias Ashraf)

It would not cause anyone any harm if people like Aleesha are left alone and accorded the respect and rights that all human beings are entitled to.

When the High Court rejected her application to change her name, Aleesha Farhana, who was born Mohd Ashraf Hafiz Abdul Aziz, was devastated.

In recent weeks, she often spoke to her family about there being little time left for her to do much of anything, including celebrating the coming Hari Raya Puasa.

That’s when I realised how important gender recognition and acceptance was for her, and how without it, life was not worth living.

I had this strange fear that she was going to take her own life. Of course, the hospital and doctors now tell us she died of a heart problem and low blood pressure. It would not be proper for me to think otherwise.

We as a nation must not let her death go to waste, for we can learn something from this tragic loss of life. If we do nothing, then more lives will be wasted, and more families will be heartbroken or will suffer in silence.

Questions about sexuality, gender, belief, faith and personal freedom are important matters to the individuals concerned.

To many of us, they constitute the core of our existence. That’s why the government (and that includes the ministers, the National Registration Department, religious authorities and judges) should handle these issues with care and gentle consideration.

I know it’s difficult for this government to be gentle and respectful of minorities, or anyone different.

They have begun to believe their own spin: that they are the great protectors of the religion, race and general wellbeing of the Malays.

They have taken it upon themselves to decide for the Malays (who are by law Muslims) everything under the sun, big and small. For example, if the Malays want to sell a piece of property, chances are the Menteri Besar and his exco have to approve the transaction.

I tried to sell a small shoplot after owning the property for four years, but my application was rejected.

Maybe one day during a recession when prices have gone south, I will finally get the approval to sell from these great protectors of my race.

It seems that as a Malay, I am not considered fit enough to decide when I can sell my own property.

I am not fit to take advantage of the market situation. I must be really incapable and weak, like a walking handicap. My rights as a property owner are restricted, but the government will say it’s for my own good.

Not sexual perverts

I apologise for the digression, but this same lack of recognition of our right to choose is reflected in Aleesha’s case.

In future, if a Malay says she is a woman, whether by birth or by biological transformation in adult life (and scientifically or by hormonal testing one can easily establish that assertion to be largely correct), then I hope the National Registration Department will just accept that fact.

Why is the department so interested in denying her proper identity?

I know some will say that we must not give legal recognition to those tampering with God’s design, but this was not what Aleesha was asking for.

She was asking for official recognition of her true self, one that only she and God truly knew. Some scholars reprimanded me for not taking their viewpoints seriously.

Well all I can say is Aleesha’s viewpoint is the only one that is relevant. Its her body and her life.

Others can talk and talk because talk is cheap. Even if we were to go so far as to say that her decision to go for a sex-change operation amounted to tampering with God’s design, what should we then make of visits to the dentist to straighten crooked teeth, or using Botox to make the nose more attractive? Is that not also tampering?

Aleesha was not alone. There are thousands like her who continue to be ostracised, ridiculed and humiliated because of their sexuality.

They may not fit our image of the male or female stereotype, but they are not out to cause mischief.

They are not sexual perverts, nor do they suffer from the curse of God. Their identities are rooted in biology – they are who they are because of their genes and their hormones.

It would not cause anyone any harm if they were to be left alone and accorded the respect and rights that all human beings are entitled to.

Berita Harian yesterday called on us not to ridicule Aleesha. Well it’s too late now – she is gone.

If those in power had been more caring and had not overplayed their role as the great protectors, she may still be alive today.

[Written by Zaid Ibrahim, President of KITA]

To all those people, especially the politicians, who are fond of denying the rights of a person like Aleesha, thank your lucky stars you, your children, grand children, uncles, aunties, grand parents, nephews and nieces are born normal. The least one can show is some empathy (not pity which is something she would not want) for her. Aleesha was living with a tormented soul and I believe it was our duty to treat her as a human being and part of our society so that she can feel wanted. Instead, we found her being persecuted to her grave. Now I guess everybody is at last satisfied that there is one less 'abnormal' person infesting our society. What a bunch of hypocrites. Aleesha can now find love and comfort in the arms of God.